I fight with my year-old. We fight about everything, like two feral cats in a paper bag, in her father's colourful terminology. Yet I hold her close always. I mean physically close. Especially when words fail me. Our physical closeness nullifies our meaningless fights. Immediately after a shouting match, she would huff at me and tell me I am annoying, but with that slant of a smile in her eyes, building up to a hug that makes everything better between us once again. I will worry the night she goes to sleep without hugging or touching me, or if I could not kiss her cheek, her hair, and feel her melt into me. I notice this is an oddity, even in Western cultures, to be always touching and hugging one's teenage child. Those who spout attachment parenting in early years are surprisingly non-tactile to their teens.
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I am an involved father of a year-old son, engaged to a woman who has three additional children 24, 14, 7. He is clearly her favorite and I believe a lot of that is driven by the fact that he is the most challenging child — he has ADHD, which is untreated. I understand her need to be affectionate, but I struggle with being able to articulate what is appropriate and not appropriate. The best example I can think of involves our bedroom. I do not allow my son to crawl into bed with us. While there are times I feel it is a harsh stance, my father taught me that at a certain age — with my body changing — there were just some things that I should not want to do anymore with my mom and dad. I received the same lessons from my father. My affection clearly embarrassed him. You need to understand that a year-old boy is still a boy, despite growing into adolescence. I think, considering your focus on the bed, your question is couched in a fear that his affection could somehow threaten your boundaries in a sexual or quasi-sexual way.
Affection is important
By using our site, you acknowledge that you have read and understand our Cookie Policy , Privacy Policy , and our Terms of Service. Parenting Stack Exchange is a question and answer site for parents, grandparents, nannies and others with a parenting role. It only takes a minute to sign up. I'm trying to decide if I should intervene and would very much appreciate some feedback. I am Japanese btw and my English may not be perfect, sorry. My son and his best friend are both 13 years of age. They have been best friends since a very young age of around 4.
I only bring up this topic because of my mother. I am 15 and my girlfriend is I know the age gap is a little alarming, but let me assure you I love her very very much and i know she loves me. Her parents like me and are fine with us cuddling, but my mom on the other hand, not so much. I always ask her why that is, but she says "I am your mother I don't need to explain it to you". But her mom is totally cool with it. It's really sad cuz my mom totally lied to me. She told me she saw my girlfriends mom at a restaurant and the talked about it and she said she agrees that we shouldn't cuddle. But i did hear her mother say with my own ears that she doesn't care.
