Of course I have time for my SOs, of course I give of myself to them. A lot of shared hobbies, interests, life goals. If you talk to him about it, and he cares about your relationship enough, the two of you will probably be able to find something that works for both of you. The reality is that while God gave us a gospel of love and stands always ready to give us a helping hand, his mercy will not rob his justice. If you aren't sealed together, say good-bye for eternity. Btw, you bringing up CES letter shit before thanksgiving will guarantee a very awkward time with the GF and probably the family for the day. I believe strongly that I was meant to marry my spouse.
I would think that a comprise between you getting missionary discussions and her reading the CES letter would be even. We learn sooooooo much from each other. In the endвthe very endвGod loves my husband even more than I love him. Look up all the threads of people who are dealing with their true believing spouses -- the guilt, the silence, the bad communication, the hostage-taking. I am a lawyer married to a surgical oncologist. Eventually you will get engaged and married and have babies and buy a house together. I really wish that I can figure out how to balance the demands of his family and our life together and make everyone happy - I think it is going to be a long road ahead, especially considering that his practice is local to our families. There is no freedom to think, no freedom to speak your mind, and no freedom to do anything that 'the brethren' say not to. I have known many women who have married non-members and are happy. Maybe you do, too.
Medical school and residency is really intense, and I think it's pretty common for doctors to get married a little later in life than the average couple. All I can say is, "WOW". Of course we are talking abt kids and marriage all the time. This means that she will probably be dating others at the same time as you. The church is really good at putting on a happy, wholesome face to show the world, but if you look behind the curtain, you see that it's a despicable cult. Accept yourself, and feel God accepting you, and everything else will follow. If you are not old enough to consider marriage, you should be careful about having a serious, exclusive relationship. That's one great thing about the internet and blogging That is exactly how I feel. He isn't always around for holidays, birthdays, or anniversaries. You should want to keep things new and interesting, as you would in any relationship, while still allowing your date to maintain the standards of her faith.
So I want to know, if you woud have been given the option to take a totally different path and have a fresh start, would you have taken it?. Helpful way to learn the facts in a fast and funny format. If I were you, I would just nope out of it and move on. Finding a person with whom your wavelength matches, and around whom you feel you can just be yourself, talk about anything, and not be worried about being judged, is not as easy as the romantic movies and TV soaps make it out to be. I can pray for and with my youngest daughter and bless her thru prayer. And you will be shocked. Work on myself, not him. Most want nothing to do with the church. He was gone by 6: I was left to manage the house, the finances, the kids' schedules and what little time was left over for my own interests. I understand your internal conflict completely and my heart goes out to you.