I don't think anyone here intended a dismissal of the girl as a human being by stating such. I think my husband would do okay with the loneliness - just like I do. You will only have a happy relationship if either you both believe in the Mormon Church, or both do not believe. Is there even any sex at all in this fantasy. You have to have very thick skin to stay in it. Chances are you can't though. Thanks for springing that one on me OB. His whole family joined after he did.




I completely relate to all you've written; many of us have come to see Mormonism for what it is, and the severe damage it does to human brains. All I can think about is the fact that his schedule means that I will have to be the one to shoulder all the parenting and household responsibilities. In the endвthe very endвGod loves my husband even more than I love him. But realistically, if she is not open minded enough to even listen to someone who has a contrasting view of the church - how will she not continually discount you and your lack of beliefs. Love the man you are going to marry- warts and all he loves yours as well. The important part of finding a partner to marry does not, in my opinion, revolve around whether or not you are of the same religion. Since her father is a bishop, I'm sure he'll want to have his daughter marry a temple worthy person. Make sure everyone involved is a couple, or at least is paired with someone.
Within a cultural group marriage is hard. Single women who are educated, regardless of religion, are also going to find similar gender imbalances among their educated peers nowadays. I chose to get married and move across the state to live with my husband and left my job, family and friends and let me tell you, it's been tremendously difficult to meet new friends in the new town. Hopefully they have some say in it, but I'm speaking about other churchgoers' expectations here, and probably your wife's.
It broke my shelf, we left as an entire family, and our marriage is better than ever. Where do you find Mormon girls. If you really like this girl, might want to show her this. God knows the big picture. I agree we shouldn't continue if we can't accept each other as we are. He is coming to church with me and our daughter for the ward Christmas program.