Anal sex tops the "must try" list for many guys…but it's not exactly up there for most women. We asked a few seasoned sex experts why men are so fascinated by the idea of getting into our back doors. Here's what they revealed. Throughout history, anal has been known as a sexual forbidden fruit of sorts. This off-limits factor makes it especially appealing to men, says award-winning erotica author Darren Michaels. After all, they tend to want what they can't have, right? Now, anal sex is a standard when it comes to porn, so most guys have seen it in action, even when they weren't necessarily looking for it. Because anal has become so mainstream in porn, guys might feel like they're missing out if they're not doing it too, says sexuality counselor Ian Kerner, PhD, author of Good in Bed. Michaels says that part of the anal appeal comes down to one thing: power. Having the upper hand can be super hot, especially for men who aren't particularly domineering in their day-to-day lives.
At its most basic, men crave novelty more than women
Yeah, they can! In cisgender men and people assigned male at birth, anal sex can stimulate the prostate and lead to an orgasm. Prostate orgasms are intense enough to send waves of orgasmic pleasure from head to toe. For cisgender women and people assigned female at birth, anal sex can hit two hot spots: the G-spot and A-spot. Both are located along the vaginal wall but can be indirectly stimulated during anal. Like the prostate, these spots have the potential to produce full-body orgasms. Taboo or forbidden sex is a common sexual fantasy. You have no idea how pleasurable a part of your body can feel until you explore it. Anal sex offers a completely different sensation than any other type of sex. Breaking away from your usual is the perfect way to keep things interesting in the bedroom with your partner and when you go solo.
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Relationships, like produce, milk and reality television stars, have a shelf life. Most couples find that after a few weeks, months, or years, the luster fades and the initial carnal fury that brought them together has dissipated. The moldy codgers who get past this sexual brick wall do so by developing an elaborate series of coping mechanisms. Infidelity is common in scenarios where one or both sexual partners become fed up with plain vanilla missionary. Sometimes, the couple just resigns themselves to erotic entropy, and embraces a sort of marital celibacy typified by the nightly ritual of 'reading magazines' or 'checking the scores on ESPN. For those of you out there who want to tell me how love can sustain itself over decades, allow me to offer you the following completely non-scientific statistical breakdown:. The easiest way to go about joining the 11 percent which is far more vital to the national discourse than the 99 percent or the 47 percent is through the back door. On more than one occasion, a woman has asked me if I wanted to do "butt stuff" when it became clear that coitus wasn't cutting it anymore. It's taboo; it's still kind of like standard heterosexual fucking since it's also about putting something inside a hole and most importantly, the difficulty level is high.
Anal sex or anal intercourse is generally the insertion and thrusting of the erect penis into a person's anus , or anus and rectum , for sexual pleasure. While anal sex is commonly associated with male homosexuality , research shows that not all gay males engage in anal sex and that it is not uncommon in heterosexual relationships. As with most forms of sexual activity, anal sex participants risk contracting sexually transmitted infections STIs. Anal sex is considered a high-risk sexual practice because of the vulnerability of the anus and rectum. The anal and rectal tissues are delicate and do not provide lubrication like the vagina does , so they can easily tear and permit disease transmission, especially if a personal lubricant is not used. Strong views are often expressed about anal sex.